Mourning Necklace & Oil

In the Victorian era, it was customary for families to go through elaborate rituals to commemorate their dead. There were three distinct mourning periods: deep mourning or full mourning, second mourning, and half-mourning. The length of time for each period would depend on the relationship with the deceased. No one would ever think of telling a mourner that they had grieved long enough or that they should hurry up and get over it; unfortunately this is often what is told to mourners today. Over the years, we have become a society that does not want to think or talk about death, and we have become less tolerant of peoples’ grief. One of the most important things we can learn from the Victorians is their openness in talking about and planning for death. It does not need to be the focus of our lives as it was then, but we do need to have more of these important conversations, hold space for those grieving, and allow ourselves whatever time it takes to fully grieve a loss.

The Mourning Necklace ~ The popularity of mourning jewelry reached its peak during the Victorian era (1837-1901). These ancient forms of jewelry were used ceremonially to mourn and honor the dead. A strongly protective stone, Obsidian forms a shield against negativity, providing a grounding cord from the base chakra to the center of the earth. It absorbs negative energy from the environments and blocks psychic attack and negative spiritual influences. Obsidian brings clarity to the mind and clears confusion. It is also known as the “grief stone” as it is thought to be very helpful for those dealing with the loss of a loved one. If it is held during meditation it can unblock hidden feelings of grief allowing the healing process to start. It is often used in healing, it is recognized as good at releasing energy blockages from the physical and energy bodies, it works quickly to bring problems to the surface to be resolved, bringing clarity with it. When worn close to the heart area, obsidian can help ground the spiritual energies of your body. When worn close to your third eye, it can help break through the barriers in your mind. It can also tap onto the scattered energies in your mind and help give you the emotional release that you need. Clear quartz crystal is considered a “master healer.” It’s said to amplify energy by absorbing, storing, releasing, and regulating it. It’s also said to aid concentration and memory. Clear Quartz Crystal is a power stone that harmonizes and balances. It augments energy by absorbing, amplifying, and balancing, storing, retrieving, focusing, transmitting and channeling universal energy and is excellent for unblocking it. This can also be used as a pendulum & for communication with one’s dearly departed.

Mourning Oil Blend ~ Traditional funerary flowers of lilac & jasmine, warmth of cinnamon, resins, with a touch of solitary heart holding & healing rose and rosemary. A little goes a long way, allow this deeply rich & nourishing oil blend to envelop yourself in your grief, to experience it and fully live it, rather than push it away. Anoint onto the self, objects, or sanctuary, diffuse, or add to bath water.

Encased in a black velvet pouch, bring the gift of allowing your loved ones to grieve. If you’d like to add a personalized note for no additional charge, please specify this in the note section at check out