Mourning Soy Candle

In the Victorian era, it was customary for families to go through elaborate rituals to commemorate their dead. There were three distinct mourning periods: deep mourning or full mourning, second mourning, and half-mourning. The length of time for each period would depend on the relationship with the deceased. No one would ever think of telling a mourner that they had grieved long enough or that they should hurry up and get over it; unfortunately this is often what is told to mourners today. Over the years, we have become a society that does not want to think or talk about death, and we have become less tolerant of peoples’ grief. One of the most important things we can learn from the Victorians is their openness in talking about and planning for death. It does not need to be the focus of our lives as it was then, but we do need to have more of these important conversations, hold space for those grieving, and allow ourselves whatever time it takes to fully grieve a loss.

Traditional funerary flowers of lilac & jasmine, warmth of cinnamon, resins, with a touch of solitary heart holding & healing rose and rosemary. Naturally colored black with detoxifying activated charcoal, topped with lilac flowers, frankincense resin and black onyx crystals, which are used to hold space for oneself and assist in embracing grief.

Allow this deeply rich & nourishing soy candle to envelop yourself in your grief, to experience it and fully live it, rather than push it away.

100% Vegan, synthetic and nut free, wildcrafted and sustainably sourced ingredients.

100ml amber glass apothecary jar